Sunday, March 26, 2017
32 Important Life Lessons From 32 Years
Everyone has a fear >> we’re scared to start something new, to go out of our comfort zone, to take a risk, to do something that we never done before. We fear for our families, for our jobs, for our life and for many things as well. Fear will always exist. No matter how much experience, confidence, recognition, money or talent you have, you’ll be scared greater or lesser degree each time when you conquer a new height or do something new. But this is fine. This means you’re still alive. You have to keep going. Go through and past your fear and don’t try to get rid of it.
Changes will keep happening >> stability is illusory. We’re constantly on the move. We keep changing – outwardly & inwardly, and these processes don’t stop even for a second. We don’t ask – to change or not to change? We can only answer – do I have control over these changes that are taking place, and to what extent?
Quickly means slowly, but without interruption >> there’s no need to do something quickly, intensely or forcefully. Just do it regularly. The most important thing is to keep the rhythm going. Do it little by little, but constantly. And after sometime, if you look at it from the outside, it will look like you did it quickly & efficiently.
Create more than you consume >> otherwise, you’ll be left with only a hopeless consumer lifestyle leading to no meaningful conclusion. Everything is good but there’s nothing good. A person must always create something, willingly & with love. This is a formula for good mental health.
Today is what you did and thought yesterday and tomorrow is what you do and think today >> no one else is responsible for the problems you come up against.
There are no guarantees at all >> this is a basic rule of the universe which you need to take into account when making all your decisions and preparing all your plans.
The era of sacred knowledge is over >> now, it’s the era of informational hygiene. For several years already, knowledge hasn’t helped any of us achieve anything or attain a meaningful existence. The internet has devalued knowledge. The ability to concentrate on a given task without losing interest is now more important. The more verbal garbage is around, the weaker your concentration becomes. The more the thoughts of others circulate in your mind, the harder it is to hear your own voice. The online stream of information weakens your ability to discover yourself.
Joy & pleasure are not the same thing >> we never experienced real joy while eating a chocolate cake, drinking a glass of wine or smoking a cigarette. We don’t experience joy while buying new shoes or perfume. We just get pleasure.
Suffering exists >> suffering exists. Everybody suffers. Both those who have nothing and those who have everything. We will always find a reason to suffer. Just accept it, and do your best to ignore it.
Not everyone can be happy >> can everyone be happy? Yes, sure! But only in theory. In practice, only those who have disciplined their minds can be constantly happy, calm, balanced and benevolent. Only those whose minds are trained and capable of not worrying about everything around them. Only those who mange to retain a sense of joy not only in agreeable circumstances but also in unpleasant situations. A person who reacts emotionally to every little incident can never be happy inside.
Joy means retaining a balance in your mind >> the most important thing is that you know what to strive for. Looking at your dreams, you realize where your sense of enduring joy comes from.
Know the importance of fruit and its physical effects >> fruit is not acidic, it’s alkaline; helping to neutralize excess acid in your body. Things like meat, sugar, fat & dairy products have the opposite effect.
My body itself knows what is better for it is one of the most insidious mind traps >> an alcoholic’s body wants to drink, a smoker’s body dreams of cigarette, our bodies are always hungry for chocolate & fries. How can the body know what is better? Our minds live by automatic responses that don’t let us make necessary changes, our bodies obey our habits and our chaotic impulses.
Food affects not only your body but also your mind.
You need money only in order not to think about money >> money doesn’t solve the central question of humanity. It don’t make people happy. But the opportunity not to think about money, at least in everyday life, significantly releases energy for something else.
We have more similarities than differences >> the value of personal uniqueness is greatly exaggerated. All the answers & solutions have already existed for a long time. In focusing on your own uniqueness, you don’t have the chance to push away your ego and perceive reality with all its real answers.
The best way to stop an addiction is not to have access to the thing your addicted to, at all.
You will never be fully prepared for change >> we are never fully prepared for twist of fate or changes. There is always a strong BUT and the temptation to postpone changes until a more favorable time. There is no point waiting for complete internal harmony. You just need to make a decision, relying on the thought that it’s high time to get things done.
Life is a book where the first chapters weren’t written by you >> sometimes even the subsequent chapters aren’t either. We’re composed of beliefs and we make up models of the world around us. We automatically absorb opinions, positions and viewpoints of other people. We imbibe them along with the air, regardless of whether we agree with them or not. And when we don’t agree, it’s also a moment of automatic denial.
A result is a bunch of attempts at something >> it’s not a single well aimed shot. And it’s certainly not just good fortune.
What helped you at one stage may one day prevent you from going on to the next stage.
Outside of your comfort zone, there is a discomfort zone >> and there’s no flowers & chocolates there. But you have to go there anyway if you want to achieve something.
There is no life without a purpose >> the only question is whether you create these purposes yourself or leave it to your instincts to decide them for you.
Laziness doesn’t exist >> no such thing as laziness. There are unloved activities, there’s such a thing as a lack of energy and a lack of wide vision & ability to be excited about new perspective.
You can’t find yourself; you can only create yourself >> there is nothing and nobody to look for. You’re always here, in the here and now. Your path is what you have under your feet right now, nothing more – it’s not anywhere else. You can only distinguish between the right path and the wrong one by using your awareness. You pave small but definite goals. If these goals are determined by others, or if they chaotically grow as a result of duty, it’s not your path. It’s just a bunch of separate episodes of your life.
You don’t need alcohol. At all.
Your unrealized potential will hurt you one day >> you are responsible for the talent that has been entrusted to you.
Banks should pay you, but not vice versa >> this is the only possible way to be financially healthy. Never, never, never buy anything that you haven’t earned enough to pay for. Never. We pay banks not only our money but also our energy. As a result, you don’t have the energy to take that risk and make adventurous plans. Breaking out from such a situation once that decision is taken is hardly going to be possible.
You need to learn how to work under pressure, and how to relax.
Yes & No are 2 answers that you need to learn as soon as possible >> learn how to say Yes to situations and people in spite of the absence of guarantees, internal readiness and changing circumstances. Learn how to say No, first of all to yourself; to your weaknesses, your fears and your selfishness. And only much later, learn how to say No to others.
There’s a difference between great things & good things >> the latter your forget about, the former you don’t. A marketer can be a true musician while a proper musician can be just a mediocre craftsman for their entire life. Creators put their tasks above themselves, dissolving their egos in the process. They work consciously and with love, not because of a sense of duty or a lack of choice.
Every sign that you meet on your way through life can be interpreted in at least three different ways >> (1) maybe this is a real sign (2) perhaps there are no signs at all (3) maybe this is a test.
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